Chapter 10 - Curb Your Spending Desire
By Richard Valentine Reily, author of Gregory's Hero.
To be truly successful with your new savings habit you have to find tricks to keep yourself from succumbing to the temptation to spend again. The temptation is ruthless, fueled by advertising, friends and desire.
In addition to creating debt, or at this point reducing savings, spending generates baggage. Over time spending will cause lots of dust collectors, crippy crap and knickknacks to accumulate. You don’t need it.
Once you have tired of the stuff, which everyone does, it will have to be stored. Why do you think storage rental businesses are springing up all over the place? Being able to not acquire in the first place is the easiest solution to not creating debt, increasing savings and relieving yourself of excess baggage. Yet even if you have already accumulated the stuff get rid of it. If you have not used an item one full turn of the calendar you have seen each season. The item is obviously useless. Get rid of it.
My spending master sister has more yard sales than the taxing authorities approve of. She has a small house, on purpose, and when it fills up she puts the good stuff on ebay and puts the rest out for a yard sale. The yard sale clears out the house and gets some of her money back from the things they no longer use.
Has your Mother called you yet to ask if you want the stuff in the attic from your childhood? You can bet there’s a bunch of it too. Your hand print watercolors, your first shoes and your favorite stuffed toy, you get the picture. Tell her no. Tell her to get rid of it. You don’t need to cart it around until under her imposed guilt you rent a place to store the stuff. Move on, you’re an adult now.
With little things I keep it simple. If I want something new I require that it replace something I already have. The same thing I am buying. Do you want a new shirt? Which one are you giving up? When you have to place a current value on the new purchase you are less likely to make it. Even if you do decide to buy the new item, you already have a commitment to dispose of something. Your load will not get heavier.
With larger things like cars or vacations your expectations have to be different. It’s as easy to rationalize a new car as it is for an alcoholic to rationalize another drink. The old car is on its last legs, the warranty is running out and it requires a great deal of repairs. The paint used to be shinier. Sounds like a new noise coming from somewhere. Have you ever used those? Why not get a new one and be done with all the worry? You can always use the ‘the new payment is the same’ rationalization too. Why not buy a new car for the same payment?
Because the new payment is for a longer period, will for sure be a ‘few dollars’ higher and involve some additional cash from you to the dealer. A new car is almost always not a financial decision. It is almost always an emotional decision. Emotional decisions always decimate finances. Major purchases must always be based on sound financial planning. Whenever emotions come into the decision it is time to stand back, cool off and allow your sound decision making skills to prevail.
A new car will not relieve you of the worry. In no time the new car will be on its last legs, going out of warranty have fading paint and require costly repairs. A deliciously never ending cycle that is always compounded by additional debt even as your local dealer is delighted at your loyalty.
Does the car really need repairs, or are you rationalizing a new car purchase? Even if it needs repairs, how much do those repairs really cost? Did you know you can buy an extended warranty for almost any car?
Do some research and find the car you really want without any cost considerations. Be certain it has a good safety, maintenance and reliability record. Then buy it three or four years old. Let the emotional buyers take the new car depreciation and you enjoy the car when it is half or a third of the original price.
I like a big car because I am a tall person. Cramping into compact cars causes me lots of pain. But, as you probably know by now I don’t like to give my money away. So I buy three or four year old high end cars and buy an extended warranty to cover down the road repair costs. I have the nice car, and my money is still in my savings account.
I recently bought a Cadillac Deville, a few years old of course. A young guy in my office commented on how he would love to have that car. He had recently purchased a new compact car. As he ogled over the Deville I showed him that I had paid less for my car then he did for his. If you could have seen his eyes go wide you would have laughed. He is a used car customer in the future when he pays off the rapidly depreciating new compact car.
Make savings your primary financial focus and always bring yourself back to saving when the desire to spend overtakes you. Spending consumes money that could otherwise become savings. Making the saving connection before spending allows you to let your savings grow even faster.
Here are a few tricks to help in the depths of ‘desire to buy despair’.
Don’t do it now. Take a good look. Consider the purchase. But, go away without it. If you still want it in a few days go back and get it. Then it’s not an impulse purchase. Try this a few times and keep track of your decisions. How many times did you go back and get it and how many times did you simply forget about it?
Look at anything, and look a lot. Look in lots of places. Just don’t buy. Go home without it. You will be just as fulfilled, and have lots less stuff and no debt. You only need food, clothing and shelter. The rest is extra.
Require a use and a place for everything before buying. If you don’t know where you are going to put the new purchase, don’t buy it. Put it down, take one last look and go on your way. You can always go back and get it another time. In the mean time the money is still yours.
At gift giving time only buy specific gifts. Don’t buy because it’s one sale or a holiday or birthday is coming up. If you can’t deliver a gift to a specific recipient at a specific time don’t buy it; no storing. Retailers are really good at storing. Let them do it; you can always run over and get it.
Use what you have before you buy anything new. I have more clothes than I can probably wear out before I die, and I expect to live a long time. The closet is full. There is no need to buy anything new. Here is where my throw one out if I buy a new one rule comes in.
The desire to buy is powerful and supported by your family, friends and advertising. You do not have to succumb to the desire to buy when you make the decision to create wealth. Decide to save.

